On 15th anniversary of 9/11, ‘the grief never goes away’

NEW YORK, NY - SEPTEMBER 11:  A commemoration ceremony is held for the victims of the September 11 terrorist attacks at the National September 11 Memorial and Museum fifteen years after the day on September 11, 2016 in New York City. Throughout the country services are being held to remember the 2,977 people who were killed in New York, the Pentagon and in a field in rural Pennsylvania.  (Photo by Spencer Platt/Getty Images)

NEW YORK, NY - SEPTEMBER 11: A commemoration ceremony is held for the victims of the September 11 terrorist attacks at the National September 11 Memorial and Museum fifteen years after the day on September 11, 2016 in New York City. Throughout the country services are being held to remember the 2,977 people who were killed in New York, the Pentagon and in a field in rural Pennsylvania. (Photo by Spencer Platt/Getty Images)

NEW YORK (AP) — The U.S. marked the 15th anniversary of 9/11 on Sunday, with victims’ relatives reading their names and reflecting on a loss that still felt as immediate to them as it was indelible for the nation.

“It doesn’t get easier. The grief never goes away. You don’t move forward — it always stays with you,” Tom Acquaviva, who lost his son, Paul Acquaviva, said as he joined over 1,000 victims’ family members, survivors and dignitaries at ground zero under an overcast sky.

For Dorothy Esposito, too, the 15 years since she lost her son, Frankie, is “like 15 seconds.”

James Johnson, a retired New York City police sergeant who is now police chief in Forest City, Pennsylvania, was there for the first time since he last worked on the rescue and recovery efforts in early 2002.

“I’ve got mixed emotions, but I’m still kind of numb,” he said. “I think everyone needs closure, and this is my time to have closure.”

President Barack Obama was scheduled to speak at an observance at the Pentagon. Hundreds of people also were expected at a ceremony at the Flight 93 National Memorial in Shanksville, Pennsylvania.

Nearly 3,000 people died when hijacked planes slammed into the World Trade Center, the Pentagon and a field near Shanksville on Sept. 11, 2001. It was the deadliest terror attack on American soil.

The 15th anniversary arrives in a country caught up in a combustible political campaign and keenly focused on political, economic and social fissures.

But some at the ceremony pleaded for the nation to look past its differences.

“The things we think separate us really don’t. We’re all part of this one Earth in this vast universe,” said Granvilette Kestenbaum, who lost her astrophysicist husband, Howard Kestenbaum. “We’re all ordinary, and we’re all special, we’re all connected. We waste precious time by thinking otherwise.”

Others expressed hopes for peace or alluded to the presidential race, calling on the next commander-in-chief to ensure America’s safety.

Still, the nation tries to put partisan politics on hold on the anniversary, and both Democratic presidential candidate Hillary Clinton and Republican rival Donald Trump were at the anniversary ceremony at the World Trade Center. Neither candidate was expected to make public remarks at a ceremony where politicians have been allowed to attend, but not speak, since 2011.

Clinton and Trump also followed a custom of halting television ads for the day.

Ceremony organizers included some additional music and readings Sunday to mark the milestone year. But they kept close to what are now traditions: moments of silence and tolling bells, an apolitical atmosphere and the hourslong reading of the names of the dead.

For relatives, it’s an occasion to keep their loved one in the public’s consciousness, while also having a tone of personal remembrance. Some speakers updated their lost loved ones on weddings and grandchildren or described how their loss had moved them to connect with others who had been through tragedy.

Jerry D’Amadeo was 10 when he lost his father, Vincent Gerard D’Amadeo. The son said he worked this summer with children at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Connecticut, where 20 children and six school staffers were massacred in 2012.

“Sometimes the bad things in our lives put us on the path to where we should be going — to help others as many have helped me,” he said.

Financial and other hurdles delayed the redevelopment of the Trade Center site early on, but now the 9/11 museum, three of four currently planned skyscrapers, an architecturally adventuresome transportation hub and shopping concourse and other features stand at the site. A design for a long-stalled, $250 million performing arts center was unveiled Thursday.

Around the Trade Center, lower Manhattan now has dozens of new hotels and eateries, 60,000 more residents and ever-more visitors than before 9/11.

Meanwhile, the crowd has thinned somewhat at the anniversary ceremony in recent years. But there’s been no sustained talk of curtailing the ceremony.

Cathy Cava, who lost her sister, Grace Susca Galante, has attended all 15 years.

“I will keep coming as long as I am walking and breathing,” Cava said, wearing a T-shirt with her sister’s photo.

“I believe most of her spirit, or at least some of her spirit, is here. I have to think that way.”

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4 comments

  • Jay

    1) Insurance scam
    2) had special terrorist insurance put on three months prior to 9/11 on both towers
    3) The twin towers were financially worthless from the very first day they were built due to the fact they were built with asbestos due to asbestos being safe to use at the time but became illegal to use in the last year of them completing the buildings
    4) the asbestos removal cost of the twin towers was 15 times the cost of the buildings being built
    5) The twin towers were engineered to withstand impact of a 747 due to how big they where at the time
    6)the New York fire department said at the time the buildings collapsed they could hear the explosions going off floor by floor

    9/11 was a false flag to bring in the patriot act

  • Jay

    Police have killed more Americans in the last five years the 9/11 attack so if you do the math we have had 3-4 9/11 attacks on American citizens by the police or aka terrorist The real bogeyman is the one that patrols in front of your house the one that sitting on the side of the street hidden in the bushes just wait for you to mess up so they can Take your hard earned money wake up